Some guys do night game pretty regularly and still don’t get much results. Game ain’t easy for them.
However, it really doesn’t take that long to get good at night game as long as you make the most of your nights.
This is because the largest, most dramatic growth spurts in game tend to come from times of deep immersion — aka multiple nights per week and/or hours at a time.
Here is a list of things that are helpful to know before undertaking an epic journey of mastering your night game.
1. Game Often and Hard
3-4 nights a week is ideal for building night game momentum.
Going out so much means you can learn from your mistakes more quickly.
But if you only go out every few weeks, you might find yourself repeating the same mistakes and never learning from them.
Another simpler reason to go out a lot is that you can become comfortable with loud places and the overall sights, sounds and smells of night game.
Just being familiar and comfortable with an area can go a long way towards being seductive, and vice-versa. When a guy is overwhelmed by the atmosphere of night game, it shows.
In addition to frequency, the amount of time you spend when you go out is important.
You should aim to spend at least 2 or 3 hours out at night. This gives you enough time to do a deep catalogue of your environment, which means you’ll become more grounded and unreactive as you’ve seen it all before.
In fact, aim to make those hours between 12am and 3am, aka the pull hours, because this is when girls have the highest buying temperature.
Most girls won’t want to leave before at least midnight, because they want to get their feet wet, mingle, and get validation from a bunch of dudes.
Not only that, but a lot of girls start out the night a bit stiff, shy and rigid, only to become more and more loose and wild as the night progresses. Sometimes the transformation is dramatic over just an hour or two.
2. Stay in the Set
Time is a valuable thing, so use it to your advantage.
Meaning, try to prolong the interaction as much as you can.
Even if the interaction dwindles, or she gives you the cold shoulder, but as long as she’s staying, you keep going. This will teach you a lesson about not leaving interactions too early.
The problem is that most of us want to end conversations on a good note, before any awkwardness comes in. While good intentioned, this is the wrong mindset.
You’re trying to go for the home run, rather than being yet another shopping buddy of hers.
If you eject while the conversation is going good, she won’t think about you enough to want to get physical with you, even if she does have a good impression of you, it won’t be deep enough to mean much.
Besides, while you log more and more time with girls, you’ll learn to spot more opportunities for meaningful interaction. You’ll also develop damage control so you can effectively deal with problems that occur only during lengthy interactions.
Look, you’re still a random dude to the girl, so she may need more time to get to know you.
And guess what? Even if all you get from her is her digits, she will probably text you back because you put in the time to make your presence count for something to her.
3. Keep it Light
Night game isn’t a philosophy lecture, or a history lesson, math class or anything of that nature.
In other words, it’s not meant to be deep. Bars and clubs are meant for superficiality and fun, nonsensical conversations.
So when you’re night gaming girls, keep the discussion light while referencing a variety of topics. Personal anecdotes, teasing, and erratic illogical patterns of conversation are all welcome in night game.
Every once in a while, say something about her that will elicit her to say something personal about herself. Then go back to the same superficial vibe as before.
Leave out the deep shit, until the pull hours hit.
4. Get a Good Wingman
Getting a good wing is important for the same reason birds need two wings to fly. On your own, you’re just one wing, so find a wingman to create a flap and get airborne.
Good wingmen will motivate you to push your interactions further.
And of course, it’d be much easier to pull that hot girl when your wingman can help disarming her friends/cockblocks in the meantime.
The best part of having a wingman is you get to brainstorm together afterwards about what you did right and wrong. Together you guys can knock out your sticking points which may have a lot more in common than you might think.
Lastly, going out with a wing is a lot more fun than flying solo. I mean, who else is going to give you a bro fist after you close that sexy girl?
5. Stay Sober, My Friend
This may seem counter-intuitive, but there are valid reasons not to drink when night gaming around people who are drinking.
First of all, it’s almost impossible to remember little details from when you were drunk. You can’t develop a solid game if you’re not sharp during gaming.
Not to mention that drinking takes a toll on finances and your body, and makes you act sloppy.
Last I checked, girls don’t love beer bellies.
Don’t get me wrong, you can still drink… Water. And a lot of it.
6. Challenge Accepted
Have specific goals about what you want to work on with yourself and night game.
For example, you could challenge yourself to make out with a girl within ten minutes of meeting her.
The challenge pushes you to try things you normally wouldn’t try. This will also prevent you from going out overly casually, doing the same (random) shit, and then going home alone.
Setting personal challenges gives you a plan and a path to success. Always be asking yourself how you can make the night more awesome.
This will help fight the urge to play it safe and not do anything different.
In the spirit of challenging yourself, remember that you’ll probably never see the girl again, whether you want to or not. And even if you do, she won’t be the same girl.
So make the most of the moment and challenge yourself to push the interaction as far as it can reasonably go.
Play to win.
Mastering night game will give you epic experiences that you may not have even dreamed of before.
Follow these guidelines to make sure you’ll have epic nights out from now on.
And remember, Gameasy.